Would a loser pass up the chance for happiness with a Latin woman or keep looking for something that isn´t there in the US?You are right, Jamie, when you talk about personal preference.I find the latter hard to believe, but find this mantra in every profile of every professional woman online. What you’re missing is that what you want has absolutely no relation to what women want. The problem is that many women from 27-34 are independent professionals just like their male peers.Any advice on how to navigate these new paradigms in the dating world? And to directly address your email, I have to divide my response into two different parts: 1) What You’re Getting Right and 2) What You’re Missing. We’ve addressed this before, from an older man who couldn’t possibly fathom why a younger woman wouldn’t want to be with him. We can complain that the opposite sex is unrealistic and passing up great opportunities – and we’d be right – but it doesn’t change that people want what they want. They, too, have a lot of dating options, are busy building their careers, and don’t have a clear urgency to settle down. Theoretically, this is when want to have time before becoming dads.NOTE: most North Americans, and especially the women, do not know the real meaning of machismo.Their families are whole and strong and the entire population is passionate about everything.
At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men.
After traveling the world with my wife for eight years and for another eight years after her death from breast cancer, I have experienced up close the dilemma that the South American woman faces, that which is termed Machismo.
After returning to the continent, I have also seen up close the liberated North American woman who now suffers major increases in alcoholism, drug abuse, and heart disease coupled with a general back slide regarding dress and feminine grooming, not to mention her errant and disrespectful children.
It’s the same exact advice I give to women in their early 40’s who want men in their early 40’s…except men in their early 40’s want women in their 30’s. I’m being a bit unfair, Adam, because there IS a market for a 42-year-old man – and you can certainly be doing better than you’re currently doing. I’m looking for a LTR but with that said I’ m not willing to settle.
Pick up a copy of Finding The One Online and it should make a difference. But the bigger takeaway is that ALL of us are very judgmental on age. To a 42-year-old man who wants his own biological children, anything above 36 is getting into risky territory. I’m a 37 year old woman and have online dated off and on over the years. I would date a 42 year old, not a problem, but as you say, men in their 40’s are looking for women who are in the 27-34 year old bracket.